Category Archives: Motivation

How you start determines how your day is likely to finish

Here is an excerpt from my book, It’s Your Life, LIVE BIG

“The way I choose to start my day sets its tone. When I make the decision to begin by giving thanks for the positive things in my life, no matter how seemingly few or bountiful they might be, I am setting the flow for new opportunities to come my way. Each and every day I will remind myself that I can steer my outcome in any direction I wish by the actions I take. The steps I take day in and day out are the determining factors as to whether or not I achieve the success I desire. I take comfort in knowing that I have control over the actions I choose to do or not do.”

Being intentional is huge. We must keep in mind that the daily decisions we make ultimately lead us to or away from what we want. Therefore it is worth spending a little time each day planning and making sure we are working our plan. Choose choice over chance.

Live BIG,

Josh Hinds

How to go for your dreams with all you’ve got

Friend, heading out in the direction of ones dreams is not for the faint of heart. At times it is true that you may well experience fear and doubt. You may feel as though the result you long for is nowhere in sight. Don’t succumb to your fear of failure — stay the course, because very often you will find that it is just beyond the point where you experience the most doubt that opportunity opens up and literally pulls you in the direction of your dreams.

Every night when you lay your head on your pillow — before drifting off to sleep run through your mind the life you want. Visualize your definition of success and affirm in your mind that you are going to do what is necessary to make your dreams a reality.

It’s your life, LIVE BIG
Josh Hinds

You’re Meant to Live Full Out

Live Life to the fullestWhether anyone has told you lately or not, you’ve got unique GOD given talents. I’m talking about talents that make you truly special. I will readily admit that can be a hard thing to accept, especially if you didn’t have the benefit of growing up hearing such truths, or if you find yourself at a point where you’re feeling beaten down from life’s ups and downs.

Friend, no matter where you find yourself I hope that you will accept what I shared above as truth. Amazingly, the moment you do, you’ll find that things begin to take shape. Good or bad, we tend to live out the reality we set for ourselves. If we see the world as a place where everyone is conspiring against us, that’s exactly what we will receive more of.

Conversely if we can see opportunity, even when it may be a little harder to see in the moment, that’s precisely what will appear. More good will make its way into your life, when you go looking for it — when you allow yourself to be open to it. This isn’t magic or rah, rah thinking. It is really just good old common sense.

Friend, good people want to seek out those like themselves. Be honest with yourself for a moment. Don’t you want to associate with others who make the choice to see the positive side of life? Of course you do. Given the choice, wouldn’t you opt to work with those who give a little more to the task at hand than what’s expected of them? Don’t you naturally gravitate to those who tend to be encouraging, and build up those around them? Sure, we all do.

The key is to avoid victim thinking with all your might. It’s easy to accept that you’ll never get ahead, that others far more powerful than you are conspiring to keep you down. However, the main problem with this line of thinking is that overtime the truth reveals itself, it wasn’t anyone, or anything that kept us from better, greater lives, in the end it was ourselves… our own broken thinking that kept us from living out the greatness that we were meant for.

The last thing in the world I’m trying to do is convince you that everything in life is going to be easy. In fact, at times life can be downright hard! What I do want to get across is that the journey is well worth the effort.

Because when you are in the trenches, fully committed to doing the best you can day in and day out you find that it isn’t really about the rewards nearly as much as the empowering feeling you get from setting out and trying to live full out, being the absolute best YOU that you can be. Consider the wise words of Jim Rohn, “Don’t wish it was easier; wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems; wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom.”

Friend, when you’re at your best — then others are blessed as a result. I love the simple saying, “I am GOD’s hands and feet.” it always reminds me that if I’m willing, and open to it I can allow GOD to do good things through me (now I’m the first to admit far more than I wish, I get in the way of that happening). You see, when you are your best others benefit immensely and are blessed as well.

You create a life well lived by setting out to be the best you can be, day in and day out. Start your day with the simple mantra: “Today I’ll do my best to leave the path I take just a little better and brighter than I found it.”

It’s Your Life, LIVE BIG!
Josh Hinds

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Sometimes You Have To Disconnect In Order To Move On

Sometimes you have to Let go of lovePerhaps one of the most difficult things in the world is accepting that sometimes you have to disconnect from relationships with people which no longer serve you in a positive way. A better way of saying it is, where the relationship no longer serves the both of you.

For some, this comes easier than for others. Letting go is hard. At times, downright painful. For better or worse, I’ve always been the type of person who, while I may not jump easily into a romantic relationship, when I do — I can’t just turn my feelings on and off with ease. Sure, I can move on, but on some level the emotions still exist. I don’t consider this a bad thing. It is just the way some folks are wired… Of which I am one.

It also means I tend to be more aware (perhaps even more cautious at times) of getting into serious romantic relationships. Right or wrong, I guard myself against what might otherwise be a string of broken relationships that take me longer to get over, or work through than others might experience. By the way, I’m fully aware that this has probably cost me what might otherwise have been some truly wonderful life experiences.

However, as the saying goes, “it is what it is”, and I should point out that I am aware of it, and am intentional about working through it. I’ll get there. I’m not there yet, but I’ll get there.

So with all that said, I realize this article may not be for everyone, but, if like me, you can relate to what I just shared, or know someone who can, you may very well find the ideas that follow helpful.

Often times it is difficult to let go of relationships — romantic or purely platonic. After all, irrespective of where things are currently, there are good memories attached. A whole host of reasons may exist as to why you resist letting go, and moving on with your life, the life that lies ahead of you.

Perhaps you lost the person unexpectedly to some tragedy. That can be excruciatingly painful because there’s nothing to distance you from your feelings for the person. You just cared deeply for them, loved them with all you had, and then they were gone. How do you reconcile that in your mind? You don’t. Plus, it is natural to assume that had we not lost them, we would have continued uninterrupted in the state we were prior to their passing. Blissfully happy. In love.

A romantic relationship that comes to an end can be altogether different however. There is a near endless stream of possibilities as to why they come to an end. Yet, whatever the reason we mourn the loss in different ways.

While this in itself is nothing new, that is, dealing with the loss of either a close friendship or a romantic love interest, what is different are the highly connected times we live in.

For example, in my early twenties I was in what was in a pretty serious relationship with a girl who I still consider to be one of the “ones that got away.” While I’m not under the illusion that she feels the same of course (but for me, as my closest friends will tell you I didn’t think I’d ever get to a point where she’d be “a memory” at the time).

I had a heck of a time letting the love I felt for her go dormant. A lot of that is because of the way I’m wired as mentioned above. When I give my heart, well, it is given 🙂 And it just takes time for me to readjust. So while it took time to move on emotionally the healing did happen. And eventually I got to a place where I took that painful experience and grew from it.

I believe a key factor in me being able to move on past that experience was that there was distance, and separation from that person. Aside from the memories in my head, and notes, and pictures I had, there weren’t constant reminders of what could be — like exist now with all the Social networks, and the interconnected world we live in. We are as close as the computer screen, whereas before search engines and social networks didn’t allow for the opportunity to reconnect us near as easily as they do now. We moved on because the disconnectedness allowed us to more easily do so.

In the hyperconnected times we live in now it is much more difficult to disconnect from those we need to in order to shift our heart centered feelings to those of a more platonic nature. It is worth noting that when we make the decision to disconnect, we want to be careful not to do it from a place of anger or mean spiritedness. While we may be disappointed, even hurt by the other person (for good reason or not) that doesn’t mean that the way we see things is right and they’re wrong.

As hard as it may be to accept, there’s a lot of truth in the old saying, ” there’s my story, then there’s your story, and often, somewhere in the middle is the truth.” So it isn’t about anyone being the bad guy. It is just about us disconnecting so that we can let those strong feelings morph and expand into a different place. And of course, in some instances, hopefully rare instances, that we simply realize we have to remain removed from the other person because it is too difficult, and emotionally painful to be reminded of the good times gone bye.

I am fortunate that for the most part, even though I tend to “fall hard” — even though I’ve been told I’m terrible at showing it sometimes, I have maintained some wonderful friendships with past romantic relationships that didn’t work out. That said, I have certainly had those that I have had to disconnect from in order to get to a place where I can move on, and be fully open to all that life has in store for me with regards to love. Fortunately, it is rare that I have had to, but it has happened.

If the idea of needing to “disconnect” at times sounds ridiculous, or even mean-spirited, I want to assure you that isn’t my intent at all. In my own life I have been the one that was disconnected from as well. It does hurt, and it is a feeling of rejection that really breaks the heart, but I have found that when I accept that it really isn’t about me, as much as that the other person needs it in order to move on in their life, it helps immensely.

I’m reminded of a relationship I had with a woman whom I loved with a capital L. As in L – O – V – E. Truth be told, I suspect part of me always will. Unfortunately it wasn’t meant to be. To this day part of me still mourns the fact that we can’t at least be friends. We went from incredibly close, she was truly one of my best friends, to her cutting me out of her life completely. It was painful. It still is.

However, I found that when I stopped making it personal, telling myself that I wasn’t good enough, or searching for a reason beyond what it was, that she just needed to move on with her life, and that I wasn’t part of the plan, and be genuinely OK with that, then I gained a peace.

You see, I wasn’t rejected, rather it is just a distance she needs in order to move on with her life. That isn’t to say it is easy to accept, but honoring her decision allows me to take a strange sort of comfort that in time my heart will continue to heal, and I will find that person who is willing to love me where she wasn’t, or couldn’t allow herself to.

Friend, take comfort in knowing that life has love, and great things in store for you. No matter what heartache you might have endured, better days are ahead. Even if you don’t see it as a possibility from where you are now, stay hopeful, and keep the faith.

And remember…

It’s Your Life, LIVE BIG
Josh Hinds

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