How to be more interesting and build stronger connections

“If you wish to be more influential, spend more time being interested than you do trying to be interesting.” — Josh Hinds

The advice above holds true in both personal and professional settings.

Consider how it made you feel the last time you interacted with someone who really wanted to get to know you. It’s likely that you left feeling as though, “that person was really cool”, or “I really felt like they were listening to what I said.”

In a world where we are often more focused on getting our particular message or agenda out, those who really connect in the way described in the quote above connect on a deeper level.

Friend, there will always be an opportunity for you to get whatever you want to across. The difference is, if you’re willing to let the other person go first, and truly hear what they say, you’ll undoubtedly find that they’re a lot more receptive to hearing you when your time comes around.

Action step:

Get out of your comfort zone a little and focus on being interested in the next person you meet. Ask a question or two that will allow those you meet to share about themselves. Ask follow up questions. It really is that easy.

In keeping with the theme above — I’d love to hear about you. Take a moment to tell me a little about yourself. And if you’re looking for any particular help in a given area of personal or professional development, let me know. There’s a chance I can point you to a resource that might be helpful.

It’s your life, LIVE BIG!
Josh Hinds

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  • Kris Bradley

    Great post, thank you for sharing. I find that sometimes I need to take a step back and listen more. I am almost finished with my Masters Degree at Full Sail University (Internet Marketing) and it is so hard not to tell people that I meet and know all about what it is I am doing, but I do realize that this is dangerous.

    Your post made me stop and think the next time I meet somebody engaging. I always want to listen, it’s my intention going into the conversation, but it is easy to get tripped up and consume the conversation.

    P.S. I added this post to my ‘Amazingly Important’ folder in Evernote.

  • Kris, first off, congratulations to you on just about having achieved your goal of attaining your master’s in Internet Marketing no less 🙂

    You’re definitely not alone in needing to listen more. Heck, I’m there with you at times. Fortunately, as the saying goes, knowing is half the battle. That is to say, being aware that one wants to listen more tends to help one do that, more often than not 🙂

    I’m honored to know the post made it into your ‘Amazingly important’ folder. Cool to know!

    -Josh